It occurred to me that we, and by we I mean I, tend to live life under this illusion that we are untouchable.\u00a0 We often think that life\u2019s circumstances, for better or worse, are in a perpetual state.\u00a0 I can tell you now with certainty that they are not. So much is taken for granted. Yet, it only takes one moment, an action, inaction, or choice, and the reality of the world you lived under is forever changed. The security, the stability, the freedom, the happiness you thought you had can evaporate. Sadly this realization usually only occurs through tragedy or misfortune. The best advice I can give(to myself) to others is to constantly be aware, be vigilant, and fight complacency at every turn. I\u2019ve often preached on the show of personal accountability, and about being the change you want to see in the world.\u00a0 Wise words but apparently hard to live by. Change can be, and usually is, a positive force in an individual\u2019s life.\u00a0 However when it\u2019s forced, it\u2019s often frightening, and overwhelming. As I sit here and type, that is the state I\u2019m in. The fear, and anxiety that I am enduring is utterly exhausting. The most frustrating part is that it all could have been avoided.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 was born to make mistakes, however it\u2019s vitally important that we live AND learn, for that\u2019s what life and growth as an individual is all about.<\/p>\n
Now for quite some time now I\u2019ve had this nagging feeling that my life could(should) be headed in a different direction. I\u2019ve felt that simply , \u201cgoing along to get along\u201d, is somehow wrong.\u00a0 I am capable of so much more, but I\u2019ve let myself become hampered by my complacency(and fear).\u00a0 Old habits die hard, but die they must.\u00a0 Life is much shorter than we often perceive.\u00a0 Too often lately have I looked back and thought, is this all there is, is this as good as it gets?\u00a0\u00a0 Sure I\u2019m an upstanding and decent human being, but At 39 years old I often feel like I have accomplished little.\u00a0 Half a lifetime spent, not wasted, but not fulfilled either.\u00a0 So I guess the simple answer to that question is a resounding NO. Only through persistence, challenge, and hard work can this life improve. Sadness and regret will only drag you down, trust me, let go of them, and release yourself. Again, it is a matter of choice.\u00a0 Now is the perfect time to write a new, exciting, and more fulfilling chapter in the book of life.\u00a0 You are never to old to change!<\/p>\n
I can also tell you that being\u00a0 \u201cthe strong silent type\u201d is all too often counter productive to human means. No man is an island, and to continue to live under that illusion is ultimately crippling.\u00a0 There is a bold difference between asking for help and whining or \u201cbeing dependent\u201d.\u00a0 In my case the fear of being dependent had all too often prevented me from asking for help.\u00a0 I despise weakness in all it\u2019s forms, but I\u2019m starting to see now that my failure to ask for help when needed was, in itself, a great form of weakness.
\nAnother topic I\u2019ve spoken to at great lengths is community, mutual cooperation, and friendship and trust.\u00a0 These are vital components in the human experience. Once again however, it seems these are hard words to live by.\u00a0 Often times we as individuals fail to see the wisdom in our own words, or refuse to put the in effort needed to enable that wisdom to come to fruition.\u00a0 In my personal experience, there\u2019s little room for excuses, as I have a good network of friends and family. However it\u2019s always been a struggle with balance.\u00a0 Give and take, moderation, priority, and focus.\u00a0 Given the clarity that has been given to me in light of current events, I pray that I find the continued strength and persistence to follow a new path. By doing so, I will live happier and hopefully be a positive example to others.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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